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10 POWERFUL SECRETS OF LOVE

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THE FIRST SECRET ---- The Power of Thought
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving
thoughts
create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change
our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want to love
someone, we need to consider his or her needs and desires. Thinking about
your ideal
partner will help you recognize him or her when you meet him or her.

THE SECOND SECRET ---- The Power of Respect
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first
person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect asks
yourself: "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even
those
you may dislike ask yourself: "What do I respect about them?"

THE THIRD SECRET ---- The Power of Giving
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love
you
give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself freely and
unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a
relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but
rather
what you are able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong,
loving
relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can
take.

THE FOURTH SECRET ---- The Power of Friendship
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not
consist
of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in the
same direction. To love someone completely, you must love him or her for who
they are not what he or she looks like. Friendship is the soil through
which
love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must
first bring friendship.

THE FIFTH SECRET ---- The Power of Touch
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down
barriers
and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states,
and makes us more receptive to love.

THE SIXTH SECRET ---- The Power of Letting Go
"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you it's yours, if
it doesn't it never was." Even in a loving relationship, people need their
own
space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let
go
of past hurts, and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears,
prejudices,
egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power
over me-today is the beginning of a new life."

THE SEVENTH SECRET ---- The Power of Communication
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love
someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you
love
them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I
LOVE
YOU." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone
you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see him or her.
If
you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you
loved,
who would you call, what would you say, and why are you waiting?

THE EIGHTH SECRET ---- The Power of Commitment
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that
commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is
the
true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be
committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or
something,
quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship
from a strong one.

THE NINTH SECRET ---- The Power of Passion
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come
through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment,
enthusiasm,
interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by Recreating past
experiences
when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The
essence
of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day
with passion.

THE TENTH SECRET ---- The Power of Trust
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person
becomes
suspicious, anxious, fearful, and the other person feels trapped and
emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust
him or her
completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never
end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you are to
ask
yourself: "Do I trust him or her completely and unreservedly?" If the
answer
is "no", then you must think very carefully before you make any type of a
commitment.